Why do people think of committing suicide?

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 hello everybody  today I am going to write here  why people are trying to suicide .? You  are coming here and I'm here for you to enlighten you about your own life speech a few words to share some few words which will be important which will be important to you in your we have to uh cooperate deal with people in different age categories now from my life I know even before I was 17 18 years old I had the ambition to have more pleasure so I was with my grandmother I was living with my grandmother and her major concerns were about doing good merits and the things that she has done  good things she has done and the falls that she has done what I have understood is that generally young people the youth is always searching for pressure in their life and when they grow old they always tend to have a flashback on what they did in their past now as a monk I deal with and I meet people in different age categories which includes young people and also the age and I have a good memory about what I have discussed with those people in different age groups so out of the people which I have bet within the aged category uh nearly about 90 percent of them they are not satisfied with the life that they have had they are worrying about the things that they have missed the things they have lost and the things they could not achieve in their they are worried about from the fact that they have been rejected by their loved ones sometimes they could not meet and they have no capacity to meet their grandchildren their children and so they are so much of mental trauma because of such instances of for such worriedness is that the decisions that they have taken in their life and also the way that they look at their life and they have been doing that for many years in their life so that addiction is particularly that they are thinking too much and worrying too much so it can be on any matter again they suffer from that now if it goes if it fades out they take another matter wise now a friend of mine from school yeah uh that my friend now she's a lady now she was in a love affair when she was in grade nine but her parents and the family was so uh they were against that relationship so she could not marry that particular boy she was she fell in love with now she is married to so she said that from the day that she lost her boyfriend she's still worrying about that incident and even she's married today she says that I'm not in proper I'm not enjoying my life and even my uh face has wilted because of the fact that that I'm worrying too much about this issue and I'm suffering in my life can you help me so I have understood from all these discussions that I had with people that the entire world is in the same habit that is they are always thinking so what I believe is that most of the people are dwelling in that world which they are thinking there is nothing wrong with your heart but if they worry too much because of thinking and if they are going towards negative lifestyle because of that thinking and if they think that their entire life is collapsing because of what they think then they are in a dangerous sometimes they could not wear the proper attire for the occasion so throughout the journey they complained about the attire sometimes they were not been able to have the proper food proper meal in uh in the morning throughout the journey they are complaining about the meal that they had as breakfast so throughout the journey they are thinking nothing but about the attire that they couldn't wear I just imagine how pity they are like he or she is witnessing many beautiful things new things new experiences but she cannot enjoy any of those things he cannot enjoy any of those things because they are still worrying about that so then if I question them did you see that botanical garden did you see those beautiful flowers we saw on the way then they say that no I did not and they then they start to worry about that they could not see those flowers maybe you also you might also a character like that or you have a friend like that so even they go to a wedding they just find something to worry about and they think too much about that and do not enjoy the if there's a person with such a habit if they grow old how much of suffocation that they would undergo in their last days because in the 24 hours the most of the time the majority of the time that they are suffering from minds now you and I had such kind of a mind when I was 17 or 18 but now I have understood when I was studying about my mind when I started on to understand to realize my mind that how much of waste that I have had in my life because I was worrying too much with all those things so if you feel that you're a person like that and if you're listening to this discussion you now it that change also should happen gradually because that habit was developed gradually so it's about only handful of people would have the ambition to get out from that cursed life that they are dealing with right now now there's a story in the bible where Jesus Christ arranged a meeting and hear ranged a meal for about five thousand people. just before a discourse 

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I think he offers food only one person stays with Jesus Christ to listen to his discourse and Jesus continues with his discourse so that man is questioning Jesus Christ saying that it's not only me who were here but what is the reason that I am the only one who are left here with you to listen to your valuable words why did you feed 5000 so then you have to understand even though this message is everywhere and many of many try to listen to it it's only handful of people would understand this message because and only few would be lucky enough to understand the meaning of it bush fire starts it's very difficult to stop it so from what that we feel a burning sensation within us now if I question you what makes your mind to burn again can you answer the things that make my mind burn are the things probably that I think I missed out in I didn't do something I didn't have the courage to do something and I missed out on and it stays all the time as a criticism self-criticism is so I will give an opportunity for a couple of others to answer that question what makes your mind my mind is burning sometimes thinking about like just keep going and it's better what's the point and he's feeling like he's like a suffocation sometimes Elena my mind burns um about the questions about the future um what should I do am I following my dharma um how where should I live how should I help people so if we summarize everything and take the gist out of it uh the reason uh what makes one's mind burn is their own so when you try to live a blissful life when you see something pretty your mind starts to burn foreign when you have desire towards uh maybe something on a property that you owe may be about your professional life maybe about your reputation if there is something that you have desire towards those things can make you burn from inside me karma so when people remember such memories about the things that they have  

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desire towards then they start to burn so then if you have analyzed your mind if you have analyzed your own life then you might have noticed that your greatest enemy is always with you between whether you're going to give all the things that your mind desires or whether you're going to give what is necessary to be given and try to control your mind would not see the pleasure that they gain at this moment they always think about the consequences of the pressure that they are trying to achieve right now which will they have to face in the future a person with wisdom always ascertaining about the nature of his mind at his last moment if he does not cleanse the mind if he does not train the mind if he does not control the mind what will what it is going to be like at his deathbed because we can always go after our desires and try to fulfill all those desires if we want but we have to face the consequences of it one day foreign because at the time of youth there's a tendency that people go after pressure as i said but then we have to think is the purpose of our life is to search and go after desires or whether we are going to use our life and the youth to understand the mind and to make a cleansed mind which will help us to face our future and because one day that we have to answer to our conscience and we we have to have that strength built within to face the consequences in the future because at that moment where you are going to face consequences of your needs then if you do not have a strong mind to bear all these consequences if you do not have a cleansed mind then you will start to criticize your life now if you have to remember you have in your life do not go after all the desires that your mind is asking for you have to find out what is essential what is necessary for your purpose of life and if you're in a difficulty to understand what is necessary in your life then you have to talk to a person with wisdom and try to take some help get some help from them to understand what is needed in your life and then i questioned you in what instances that your mind saying that you're worrying about the burn starts when you start to think about the things that you couldn't achieve in the past or maybe the things that you have to do in the future so then you have to realize that wariness that burning 

depends on the level of ego developed within you again and then you realize that okay with things that your mind starts to burn and you will realize the level of the burn then you have the question what are we supposed to do so then I'm going to tell you something beyond that practiced by the general public because as long as you're there you feel that burn inside yes so the level of sensation that you get is the level of the level of so then I'm telling you let your mind to because when you start to understand think about the purpose of life what who who burns within it is yourself so as long as you exist your mind because temporarily you might uh get out from that burning sensation but as long as you exist it will comes up so now we have we go beyond a little bit more and do exercise that you understand you analyze how your self was created you will be able to understand who you really are when you understand who you really are you can understand the reason for the burning within and then you can eternally stop the burns which you have in the mind and these so that if your mind desires for things then you should do the opposite of what your mind requires you to do and then try to develop a strength within you so as now we put a topic for a day because there should be a schedule but what we discuss here about the life now yesterday i met a person he has taken medication from 24 psychiatrics so he has been treated for many years and he has taken different types of medicine and he has done his own research about those medicines and he's so aware about psychiatric drugs but none of those drugs none of those treatments have helped him to get away from his mental disorder but he has listened to my sermon one of my sermon accidentally and it has helped him to get away from his mental trauma and then from there onwards he has continued to listen to my sermons and yesterday he came and he said he was here to express his gratitude to me and he said that now he is not suffering for any from any kind of a medical uh mental trauma now for the reason for his suffocation is that he has been in an affair with another woman uh partially from his only from his side it's a one-way love and the lady that he was interested in she was in another affair so because of that he was suffering too much from his mind and he could not express his love to that woman as well and that has developed depression so he has been treated for five or six years so he has tried to commit suicide three times now he says that still he suffers a little bit from his mind but that suffocation is not powerful enough for him to go to a level of suicidal thought and he said that he had another friend that that so she also had the same experience where she also had an affair with another boy and they could not uh uh continue with that affair and now she is suffering from her mind and she is mentally ill and she did not have any chance to come to me or to come to to have a spiritual discussion with me and now she's been treated in a medical hospital so the main reason for want to commit suicide is that they are unaware about their mind and also they are strongly attached to one thing from the mind and they were unable to fulfill that desire to take so if someone is too much attached to something if someone has a lot of desire towards one thing and if they cannot achieve that desire then their mind will drive them to end their life so that desire may be towards a materialistic thing or it might foreign because some people they are too much attached to the concept of enlightenment and they sometimes they are not they will not be successful in achieving that because of the too much of desire that they had towards enlightenment sometimes they might end their life by committing suicide but there are a lot of monks there are a lot of people who have followed the spiritual path who has taken this decision because of the lot of because of the great desire they had towards the spiritual path so then you have to understand if your mind gets too much attached to something it may be on your children maybe on something else but it might create suicidal thoughts in you if you were not successful in achieving that expectation it happens like this yes she has only one child and her entire if she gets too much attached to the child then her entire life will uh deal with that child then she will not see any purpose they are after to live so when her imagination collapsed now if you study all these suicidal cases you will realize that at that particular moment when they have taken the decision to commit suicide their mental world has collapsed to a situation where they are not being able to take it uh keep it alive back again without any external health now even i have had suicidal thoughts couple of times then when i analyzed what is the reason for having such thoughts then i have realized that because i have too much of too much attachment towards something and i have not been able to fulfill that desire and that has caused me to have such thoughts on if you feel like that you're getting too much attached to something in your life maybe on a materialistic thing or maybe on a concept that you are at a great danger because that attachment can drive you towards a suicidal thought now the first thing that you have to do is you should not you should never be alone in such a situation if you get that sort of a mentality immediately you have to meet a friend of yours who has the capacity to understand and deal with such situations and you should express your mental condition but you're undergoing right now to that person by words because now at this particular moment there is no purpose in that person's life so there should be another person a companion to spend spend some time with that person until he or she develops a certain purpose within to survive there was a woman and she had a child and she was too the meaning of that name is that she was so thin and that's why she was given that name so she had had she had a she has developed a long future a long plan from her mind with her child willa and then you have to understand another nature of a person with a suicidal thought is that they are not willing to accept so even her friends the people around her told the fact that that child is dead she denied the demise of her childhood foreign so then she went to all the physicians in that area and she said i will give you any amount of money please kill my child and they understood that she is mentally unstable at this moment and they refused to treat the from one doctor to another she

 received the same response but still she was at a denial about the death of her child but one day she met a person okay wow that i know a person who can treat your child and he is in that particular monastery you go there and meet him he will be able to help you now go to me when to meet Gautam gave the response that she was expecting to hear all the other doctors did not give such a response so then you have to realize when there's a person with a suicidal thought when there is a purpose a person with such a

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     mental distress he or she has a certain expectation from her mind which is not realistic but for her sake we have to accept that non-realistic expectation that is what gautam buddha did i thought so if you now the treatment that gautam buddha gave to that particular woman is well recorded in buddhist scripts and it has become a study for even present-day doctors who are dealing with mental disorders said okay i can treat your child but i need some certain ingredients to make the medicine can you give me can you get me some sesame seeds that's very easy because you find sesame everywhere in India i can get you something can't accept any sort of sesame that you bring you have to bring sesame from a family like this it should be a family where there's no one has passed in their uh family tree where there there should be no death has occurred in their family if you find a family like that bring some sesame seed from such house so then they are offering her some sesame seed then then she questions has someone died in your family so then the people in the house they reply my grandmother has died my grandfather has died or either my cousin has died that has been their response so then she move on to the next house refusing the sesame from that house foreign so now when she goes from one house to another asking for sesame seed from a family where no one has died in the past she realized from the responses she got from many houses that this is not a incident which i have only come across death is the common nature and every family has lost someone in their lineage and then she realized that she wasdealing with something stupidly and then at that time gautam buddha has given her some time to develop a purpose to survive i would also like to be enlightened to have a blissful mind like yours can you teach me something helps her spiritually and the book says that uh after some time she was enlightened so in that sense is actually good to have attachments in your life and Also it is a blessing to have collapses in your life but your life will be a blessing if you come across all those experiences and this particular message. What I say is that all of you are lucky because you're hearing these words and spreading this message. You heard something like this,tell your friends tell it to your relations with but at least one will and we are not angry with the people who refused it because they are supposed to criticize so this life as a human being you should bear the fruits out of it and try to be enlightened and to have a blissful mind now i think it's time for questions Okay, so if anybody has any questions, just let me know in the chat box or have a hand up, and while we're waiting, I have one question for myself. It feels like I have two types of desires. One type of desire is the one that when I become aware of it by itself, it can reduce the power of it, so I can let some of them go. The other type of desire is the one that I find harder to let go of. I can feel my attachment to it. I understand it is right to then pursue that desire and if I don't achieve it,then that is the other way to let go of the attachment. Try to understand the fact that you are not being successful in achieving those sorts of expectations and not be worried about it. It doesn't matter that you recall that memory again and again, but do not let your mind collapse again. foreign because generally what happens is that when there is an expectation when there's a desire which we are not successful in achieving we start to worry about thinking about it then your life can be cursed so you it is not necessary to worry about it you have to realize that you were not being successful in achieving it but stop being worried about it now do not get caught to that curse it is not only you who have come across unsuccess unsuccessful expectations it is a very common thing maybe every one of us have certain desires which we have not been able to fulfill so but the only the weak person would worry about those things we have to be strong to not to worry i will tell you a story which i heard when i was a kid as a kid but all the fruits were high so the fox jumped a couple of times to have to get some uh grapes but it was unsuccessful in that so many other foxes were watching that he does so then that particular foxwas so shaped and then the other foxes were also bullying him saying that okay you couldn't even pluck a single grip so the fox said it is good that i couldn't pluck a single grape because all those grapes are bitter again so the story when when we were taught that story uh our grandparents they said that the fox is so cunning that is why he said something like that but what i say is that the fox is so wise because out of many people who are worrying about things that they could not achieve in their life after having many desires this particular fox was so wise to not to worry about the things he couldn't achieve so it is good to face the next incident the next episode of your life rather than worrying on what happened in the past because if you keep on worrying on what happened in the past you will be unsuccessful in properly facing whatever coming across next then it will be like a chain reaction that I I I think worry will pass on like a disease, and I think there are a lot of questions. Elena: you had your hand out hello thank you again for your time today um i have the i'm not sure i understand so there's two things you said one is about the desires and not to be attached to our desires um naturally my mind keeps creating desires um because it brings me also happiness when i go towards i don't really care if they happen too much but at least i've got a goal something to go towards and actions so my first question is this is should i then um not pay attention to those desires at all in which case i don't have a goal for my life and it's quite depressing a bit boring um and then the second point you mentioned to train the mind by going against what it wants um can you give a bit more information about this i'm afraid that it can be [Music] uh quite depressing as well i want i want to keep a bit of a lighthearted in my life um regarding your first question the way you understood is wrong what i told you is that the reason for the burn of your mind is now if you say if you claim that if you lose that burn within it will be depressing i'm pretty much sure it won't be like that because in your life you are always experiencing moments which you do not feel any burn i thought about a paranormal now do you feel like depressed in such situations so you have to remember the one who enjoys the life most the one you witnessed the beauty of this world most is a person with less desire a person with less burning in his mind what is now if your mind is burning would you ever be able to play that drum properly so what i told you is that let your mind burn and understand the fact that that burn happens and the that burn the level of burn is proportional to the level of ego that you have inside you and try to investigate what ego really means once you come to the realization of ego through this message by listening to this message gradually then you will develop a bliss inside now your second question now your mindsays okay you should eat that particular food but let's say because of some other reason you are not being able to have that food right so then your mind will start to worry that okay i could not eat that food because that reason and it will start to suffer then you have to explain to your mind okay i could not eat that and that has happened now there's no point of worrying about it i have another episode in my life to face i have to face that properly so stop worrying about it and let's move on i will give you another example i can remember one day you questioned me about your parents can you Now I can remember that you have a certain desire inside your parents should behave like this your parents should do like this and their life should be like this right so that is what you desire from you from within you but what your parents are doing right now is the total opposite of it right so then accept it that is what what you are doing against your decision your mind the desire of your mind drives you to do something it's a it's a huge force which drives you to do something stop doing it that is what doing opposition is now when you do that your mind will not let you to be in peace it will wage war against you it will create more fire more calamities more stone but still you withhold it and do not do what your mind is what generally happens you know for an ordinary person when the mind wage wages a war against what you do they will just do and please but if you do that that is that will be the reason for you to suffer one day did you understand Yes, I just wonder why people say "follow the heart" because, for me, following the heart means following the desires in a way, so I just get confused. That is not what it means. One should listen to their heart,but you have to ascertain and you have to have a clear demarcation between what is a selfless expectation and what is a selfish expectation. If you continue to do selfish things, as your mind asks, it will develop your ego more and more and it will destroy your entire life, but when your heart says, if you do selfless things, it will help you to destroy your ego.I myself give the same advice to people follow your heart but then you have to understand and clear it out what is the proper instructions because the majority of thoughts now when you hear a word a message like this your heart says okay i should give up everything and do this spiritual uh investigation and analysis i should sacrifice my entire life to this then again your mind comes and tell you no i have to fulfill this i have to achieve this goal in my life i have to be like this there are a lot of things to be done in my life i have no time to sacrifice for this can you understand that so then again there is a fight between the heart and the mind i understand thank you Thank you, Elena, and gina also has a question yes hello uh thank you very much for your for your talk today it's very it's very making me think a lot um i have a question about um a friend um who i was with this morning and we were having a talk she's  40 she's single and she has a very strong desire to have children um she takes antidepressants um because um i think mainly because of her desire to have children and she's not in a position to to have them at the moment um and i think that her her desire is driven not so much by the ego but by her hormones by her maternal instinct um and i i wonder what advice you would give for that right is she expecting or uh no she's she's single she's she's alone um she doesn't have a boyfriend um i think she wants she wants to have a boyfriend but i think her main desire is to have children uh a now if that is the case if someone can balance the level of hormones in her body the problem can be solved isn't it with the antidepressants you mean an antidepressant drug can do is to balance out one's hormone but beyond the level of hormone there is something an entity called the mind which the science has not yet been able to grasp the true nature of it actually the problem lies there not with hormones because sometimes i meet uh psychiatrists actually they come to meet me and they have a lot of knowledge in psychiatry they know the exact drug and the proportion that they had to consume but still even after using that they are still suffering from their mind and they are coming to me and i had treated such so then i have explained them now you know how to treat and balance the hormone levels of hormones in you but still when you use that medication and balance your hormone still your using chemicals and by using drugs they might come across another now if i take the story of your friend now you say that the that she has developed depressionbecause of her expectation on children and now if by taking medicine you can balance the level of hormone and get out from the body pain but as long as she withhold that expectation in her mind strongly sometimes there is a tendency she might develop another disease as because if she can reduce her ego she can obviously consider another child and orphan as her own and treat them and assist them but she still wants her own child so that shows that she has too much of ego of having something for for her own now if she continues with that mindset and if she's not successful in achieving that desire definitely she will suffer bodily funding now if it is possible take her to me bring her to me because i know what is the exact treatment to be given to her again because what we are discussing right now is based on the facts on the table right this is this discussion itself will not be helpful for her to develop her mind because there is no point now even though you tell what we discussed here today to your friend it might not help her much but if we can meet her face to face then we can analyze more about the situation and give the exact treatment to her mind which is suitable which is tailor-made to her you it would be great to know where afterwards how how i can put her in contact with you again now if he wishes and if he is ready if she is ready she can come to the next discussion that we are at thisforum if not uh and uh because they have our contact details you we can coordinate through them and to arrange a session. Thank you so much. I appreciate your words. Thanks, Gina. I think the next one is Susie. Okay, I think you were going to read it out loud. Nice, easy hi. It's nice to be with you all today. Thank you for your wise words. I was just wondering what tools you would recommend to help somebody to quieten the mind to raise awareness of what is going on in the mind because sometimes we have all these desires and things and it keeps going and we don't always link it to the fact that that's the cause of our suffering.So how do we raise the awareness to how do we how do we slowly come to reduce that how do we help others to to slowly reduce that now if someone is too much attached to a concept from within you will definitely going to feel it strongly so there is no need to develop an awareness as such because the very fact that you feel that strong attachment within you is awareness so when someone listen to this message listen to our words when they feel that when they are being aware about that the analysis still automatically stops because someone also can develop awareness artificially they have to capture desires yeah so if someone would wish to follow that artificial method they would put some force and forcefully be aware about the desires being created by the mind so if they do that they will start to feel even minor desires being developed but if youdo that if you follow that path your life itself will be artificial and sometimes after you will get fed up from that spiritual practice so after some time you will go back to ground zero because if you try to be artificially aware now let's say you're drinking this glass of water okay you call yourself okay I'm drinking i'm aware of problems now it is so unnatural so automatically you will start to sense that burn inside which comes with the level of your ego that is awareness it will develop naturally and also in certain instances from our general knowledge from our general iq we know that even though our mind says to do so if we do this we will be in trouble in such situations just try to avoid sir doing certain things right don't plan how to face situations then and there decide whether i should do Thank You so much.I should follow the instructions of my mind whether I should follow the instructions of my mind or not. Thank you so much. Thank you, Susie and Christine. Hello, hello, how are you? I'm good. Thank you, thank you and you yes yes yes good it's good to be back with you thank you so much um i have quite a lot of experiences in my life and in my working life and in my personal life of people who have had a lot of suicidal thought or have attempted suicide or have committed suicide and died um so there's there's so much i could ask you about and i know i could learn so much from you so i i have to choose um so i'm working with um a man at the moment and to try to put this in the context of what you've been teaching today um what he cannot accept he's he's talked about taking his own life for a long time he talks about doing that all the time and what he can't accept is that um his mother left his father when he was a boy and um this was huge for him and he can't accept that and his desire is to be the man he believes he would have been if his mother hadn't have left his father so my work with him has been mainly to help him develop acceptance of what happened and to be the man that he is in the light of what's happened in his life but if i follow the buddha story and tell him i can offer  what's unrealistic like yes i can help you be this this man you think he would be if these things haven't happened in your life what is it that i would what task would i give him that would help him to realize that this is unrealistic um foreign foreign now if i meet him in person definitely i will i will get what to be prescribed to him but that that prescription cannot be given on facts like this again available at this moment now actually your experience is an example for what we discussed today when one person is so ambitious of a desire of his mind it can definitely drive him towards a suicidal thought in certain instances certain subjects you have to tie them up for some time to avoid them committing suicide because their mind is so unstable yes without a physical force you cannot stop them from committing suicide because i might have come across hundreds of such cases and i won't say that I've been able to treat everyone but 99 of them have been successful but it is situational it is relative to each case yes it depends on the one in front of yeah is that there are there is no one particular method with me on how to uh treat people yes so it actually comes when i discuss it Yes, I understand that one thing that it really seems to me with this man is that he doesn't really want to die; he just doesn't know how to live life. with these this um non-acceptance and this desire and so the focus for me has been on helping him how to live yes you're right that that that is very common case they don't know how to die they don't want us to die but they don't know how to live whatever i think majority of people are suffering from them now that is why we name this message this teaching as the art of living i got it thank you thank you so much thank you thank you i have some question for uh myself i think and are you suffering from that i am this is this is like listening to Ananda city for a long time now you know nearly five six years and i go through the ups and downs and you know shaping up the life and having pleasure and pain and suffering and it is quite nice place i am in in a way my my you know like i can feel like his mind is not going that much of up and downs now and but lately when i waking up or something and doing something i think i need to brush my teeth every day i need to wash my hair i need to dress myself every day is that into that it's that everyday same and then at that certain moment it's coming like very deep depth in there depth in there i don't know it's a dip and then i at that point i pick myself up doing oh i can treat another 100 patients i can do some things to i can cook my meal for my children i can do some you know research paper i can do this that i like that i pick them up something i can do but this this feeling of is like is that you know like the things we do every day you know is that not going to end kind of is it's feeling like very yeah the matter that it has you have to undergo the same thing again and again and again like you know that matter the reason is that you have a great desire to escape from this cycle of life do not hate this side psychologically we do not search for liberation in my case i do not search for liberation i just join with the final moment which i'm going to face  because if you take one's life it is a collection of habits it won't be a problem those habits won't be a problem to us as long as we do not worry with them so what is the exact problem here is it the habit that you have or is it the fact that you are worrying with those about that now that now if i look into one's life if you take it as a whole it's like a movie now if you can give some money to a director and tell your life story they can create wonderful movies out of each of our lives but personally we think that our life is so adventurous or it's a tragedy or it's so joyful we think like that is we are just facing one particular incident but if you line up all those each and every incident and just move it fast you At that particular vertical line, you can see your birth, you can see your existence, you can see your demise, you can see your liberation. Everything at one moment but your ego and your desire get together and line up all those incidents and create havoc in your life, and the desire burns your life and your ego's request for liberation. Thank you. There are a couple more questions. Maybe this will be enough. I don't know. Let's go for two.hello oh hi Vanessa hello hi thank you for the talk um i have a one question why does the mind create desires now why can't we see objects in dark because there is no light the same that is the same reason creates desires in one's mind and what is what do you mean by light then now you're saying your mind is creating desires but if you have a proper understanding your about your mind you should know the reason for your mind to create desires now about three years ago i met a young woman in a sermon like this she was young but she looked so old because then i realized that she is suffering mentally now she complained about her husband saying that  her husband never comes home at the time she expects and this happens throughout her marriage and every night because of this late arrival of her husband they are arguing with each other and even in the morning they continue to call but even this happens every day then again the next day also a husband consulate we might have a cure so then i told her like this i will tell you how to change this so then she asked me so then if i do what you say would my husband come at the time that iexpect i told her no i can't do that although i can tell you to change now you are thinking right now that your husband should come by five o'clock now here after you should think like this why should i have a such a guideline if my husband wants she can come he can come home by four o'clock or by five o'clock or by six o'clock or by twelve midnight she he can come home at any time he wants i will have my dinner and i will sleep without worrying about the time that he comes before that she explained me the way she suffers now she thinks from her mind she thinks her husband should come by six o'clock from 5 pm she start to think about his arrival okay when the time gets closer to 6 she's boiling from inside when one minutes past 6 she totally uh start to explode so when the husband comes she's all over him then after the discussion we had she realized all the problem was the way that she was thinking so she had a strong expectation that her wishes so i told her to give up that strong expectation and accept what is happening let your husband to come at any she was always thinking the late arrival of her husband was the reason for her suffering she never understood the fact that her expectation was the very reason for her suffering that is what is meant by understanding the mind what is the result what are the consequences of the outside world the way the expectations develop within from our mind and to understand the behavior from within that is what realization so that is why we are having a discussion like this this entire discussion is about the chemistry the behavior of a human mind now if you when you are in this discussionsometimes after you will we were never enlightened about the nature of the mind we were always dealing with what was happening in the outside world so in the outside world it's always most of the time what happens in the outside world goes against our own wish that is that is the very reason for all the problems in one's foreign now there is a part to be done in the outside but the majority of the more than 90 of the problem lies within now what we are trying to analyze here is to understand what is happening within now what a theoretical now did you understand what i say yes she came to meet me after some time and she was totally ashamed now she was like blow she was growing and she said it was a little bit difficult for her at once to change the way she was thinking but now she's okay with that now she doesn't matter at what so then she said now it is good that we had the discussion that day because until that i was always thinking the reason the cause for my suffocation is my husband but now she knows now she has understood no it is the way that she was thinking and she said if we did not have that discussion that day maybe she might have taken a decision about her marriage actually the word she said the words she used was that that my house was like haunted before so so the desires are there so we can learn about ourselves and have a little bit more of light again and it will drive us occasionally a person would understand that and would use uh the desires to understand one's mind if you take as i said before if you take five thousand people four s mind if you take as i said before if you take five thousand people four s mind if you take as i said before if you take five thousand people four s mind if you take as i said before if you take five thousand people four s mind if you take as i said before if you take five thousand people four s mind if you take as i said before if you take five thousand people four s mind if you take as i said before if you take five thousand people four s mind if you take as i said before if you take five thousand people four s mind if you take as i said before if you take five thousand people four

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thousand nine hundred and ninety nine people will not make use of it they will just suffer with their life thank you i think the very last question is from the lady whose signal i think wasn't very good Danelle and so i'll just read the question she said i'm a third year medical student who found a purpose in sever however since the lockdown i haven't been able to travel back to university and i'm stuck at home until further notice i would like some advice as to what you would do in this situation to find a sense of purpose again when the purpose you had feels taken away and the other question is how is it possible to create goals and pursue them without any ego foreign [Music] foreign it is not only something which is which has happened to herself maybe all of her batch mates maybe the students in her age are undergoing the same situation so now she can make use of this delay the one years delay to develop that quality of patience otherwise she won't be able to deal with patients now now she has to understand she's following a noble path because once she becomes a doctor she can help lot of people now irrespective of the salaries that she gets if she can do justice to her service she can help lot of people so she should be glad about that following that so there's nothing to worry there for in this time she can learn and try to learn things which she has missed and to develop qualities that she has to inculcate as a doctor you will come across a patient who is suffering from a situation like that you're suffering right now now from your own experience you know how to treat now since you're going to be a doctor and this is a good experience to you and uh do not panic do not rush in your life be patient and now it isn't only to you for all of us this particular situation of quit 19 is a good lesson so as my final word i would like to bless all of you for organizing this event and also I'm my blessings are with all of you who participated here today and there is a duty which lies upon you all of you now if you feel like this particular discussion is important to you it is it should your there is a prime objective that you should spread this with your friends with the people that you care of and try to put some light to their life and do not worry too much about what happens in your life just live by the moment do not plan too much face that incident at that moment there is no point of having free plans because you just have to face it then and there is enjoy it doesn't matter in which way that of moment comes to you enjoy it thank you thank you very much you.

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